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Are You Aging or Maturing as a Writer? (Guest Post)

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Are You Aging or Maturing as a Writer?

by Steph Beth Nickel

Last month (“Are You Aging or Maturing as a Reader?“) we discussed the choices we have as readers. Are we aging, which can be seen in the context of the challenges we face as we grow older, or are we maturing, learning from and applying what we discover with each passing year?

This month let’s ask the same question of ourselves as writers.

Below are some thoughts on what maturing as a writer could look like:

Tips for Writers

If you’ve been writing for years, I encourage you to keep at it. And if you think it’s too late to begin writing even though it’s still one of your dreams, I encourage you to pursue your goal—no mature your age.

While it’s good to expand our horizons, as loath as I am to admit it, it may be time to zero in on the one or two genres in which you would like to write and publish. This coming from an eclectically interested and eclectically involved individual . . .  <sigh>

Deciding on the genre(s) you want to focus on will increase your chances of completing and indie publishing your work or finding a traditional publisher.

Researching which publishing path you want to take will take time, but deciding which path best suits you will save time and energy in the long run. There is lots to learn whichever option you choose.

Note: The publishing path you choose for one project may not be the best for subsequent projects.

A Word of Warning

There are many individuals claiming to be experts in the writing and publishing fields. Do your homework before following anyone’s advice (especially if there is a fee involved). Sadly, there are many who are either deliberately or unintentionally doling out incomplete or entirely false information. Some even charge for services that are free, something I warned a friend about recently. I’m SO GLAD she asked my opinion before forwarding this individual $500 for something that doesn’t cost a dime.

The information we learned a decade ago, last year, or even last week, may not be particularly relevant today. Ours is a twofold responsibility: 1) keep learning and 2) recognize the fact that, at some point, we have to go ahead and press Publish or fire off our manuscript to potential agents, editors, and/or publishers. While we should expand our knowledge, we must realize publishing is in a constant state of flux.

It will be difficult for some of us to hear this, but taking into account the ever-changing writing and publishing landscape and the fact that perfection is subjective and we will never achieve it means we must muster up the courage to recognize when good enough is good enough. I recently heard that there are those who advise writers to publish their work if they consider it 70 percent of what it could be. Seventy percent!

For perfectionists, the idea of publishing at 70 or even 80 percent is inconceivable. For those of us who aren’t particularly perfectionistic, this concept may make us want to cheer.

What This Does Not Mean

Publishing a book that we feel is only at 70 percent does not mean that we shouldn’t send it to beta readers and consider their input. It doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t get our manuscript professionally edited. It doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t keep developing and applying our writing and self-editing skills.

But there comes a point when we must realize that as we learn and grow and go over our manuscript “just one more time,” the changes we might make will not make all that much difference. And if we want to publish more than one book, we have to take a deep breath and send our current work out into the world.

My take: Aging can make us more rigid, less likely to consider publishing something we feel isn’t the absolute best we can make it. While maturing is realizing perfection is not attainable and we can be a blessing to readers even if our writing isn’t flawless, whatever that means to us.

In what ways are you maturing as a writer?


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As an editor, Steph Beth Nickel has the honour of coming alongside writers to help them polish their work. As the coauthor of Paralympian Deb Willows’s memoirs, Steph has been blessed to work with this amazing woman. And as a future self-published author, with the Lord’s help, Steph has taken brave steps toward publication.

If you would like more information about her services, you can contact her at stephbethnickelediting@gmail.com.

You’re invited to visit her website: http://stephbethnickeleditor.com/.

You can join her Editing Tips Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/418423519384351.

Are You Aging or Maturing as a Reader? (Guest Post)

Are You Aging or Maturing as a Reader?

by Steph Beth Nickel

Over the next couple of months, I will be having cataract surgery on both eyes and may need corneal transplants in the years to come. I can no longer go as long between workouts and not get stiff—not the good kind that comes from beneficial exercise but the kind that comes from too much inactivity. My sleep patterns are wonky, admittedly because I often stay up too late.

Are these signs of maturing or aging? Easy answer, right?

Sadly, we often think of aging in negative terms and maturing in positive ones, but I truly believe we can combine the two—while acknowledging the challenges of the passing years.

Below are some tips for older readers. (If you haven’t felt the effects of aging as of yet, hopefully you’ll find a few tips that will benefit you as well.)

Tips for Readers

As we age, our bodies and minds often get less pliable, less flexible. Just as regular physical activity can be beneficial to our body, reading can help us continue to mature and reduce the mental signs of aging.

While we all have our favourite genre(s), there are many benefits to expanding our horizons. Why not pick up a book in a genre you don’t typically read?

Have you been wanting to develop your skills in an area you’re familiar with or learn an entirely new-to-you skill? Why not nab a book in your favourite format—or pull one off your shelves you’ve been meaning to (re)read?

Just as it’s beneficial to read a wide variety of genres, there are advantages to consuming books in multiple formats: physical books, e-books, and audiobooks. In recent years, I’ve consumed far more audiobooks than I’d ever imagined I would, being more of a visual learner than an auditory one. When I’m tired or busy doing something that doesn’t require my undivided attention, I enjoy having an audiobook playing.

You can use a library app and borrow audiobooks (and e-books) for free, make individual purchases from sites such as Chirp Books (their deals are phenomenal), or pay a monthly subscription rate to a service such as Rakuten Kobo and download as many e-books and audiobooks as you like.

True confessions: I have numerous apps on my phone for consuming books and hundreds of unread volumes.

How about joining (or starting) a book club? If you don’t have enough friends or family member to begin your own book club, you may want to join an in-person or online club that reads books in one of your preferred genres.

Happy reading, all!

And if you’re a writer—or thinking of becoming one—check out next month’s post, “Are You Aging or Maturing as a Writer?


Photo credit: Jaime Mellor Photography

As an editor, Steph Beth Nickel has the honour of coming alongside writers to help them polish their work. As the coauthor of Paralympian Deb Willows’s memoirs, Steph has been blessed to work with this amazing woman. And as a future self-published author, with the Lord’s help, Steph has taken brave steps toward publication.

If you would like more information about her services, you can contact her at stephbethnickelediting@gmail.com.

You’re invited to visit her website: http://stephbethnickeleditor.com/.

You can join her Editing Tips Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/418423519384351.

Perspective from the Other Side of the Hill

Guest post by Steph Beth Nickel

Many of you may not think of 53 as “the other side of the hill,” and I’m not saying that I’m ready to throw a blanket over my legs, take up knitting, and sit in my rocking chair until the Lord calls me home. Far from it!

However, I’m not 20 anymore . . . or 30 or 40. And that’s okay.

And while I do believe we can make the most of the second half of life by eating well, getting adequate physical activity, and refusing to sit back and leave “the real work” to the next generation . . . there comes a time when we must honestly evaluate our priorities.

I would say that mine all have to do with relationship—with God, family and friends, and others who cross my path. But my perspective is changing; my focus is narrowing even further.

As a Christian, I’ve heard it said, “It’s all about Jesus.” I have never agreed more than I do right now.

Just why do I do what I do?

The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 10:31, “Whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (ESV)

Yes, I must earn an income.

No, there is nothing wrong with kicking back with my family and watching TV in the evening—depending, of course, on what we choose to watch.

And what about household chores, grocery shopping, and gardening? They all have their place. (Though I did write a blog for a while titled “Confessions of a Horrible Housekeeper,” and I still leave the gardening to my hubby.)

Lately, as I’ve been going about my day-to-day tasks, I’ve realized just how futile the vast majority of our pursuits really are—at least in the light of eternity. I can understand why Solomon said, “Meaningless! Meaningless . . . Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless” (Ecclesiastes 1:1 NIV).

If I stop there, I may be tempted to head for that rocking chair. And forget the knitting . . . for that might bless someone.

Remember Ecclesiastes 3:11-13.

He [God] has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God. (NIV)

I admit if I focus on the apparent futility of the everyday, I will slip into a funk. In fact, I have been dealing with negativity for a while now.

But if I focus on the passages from 1 Corinthians 10 and Ecclesiastes 3, I am reminded that I must do what I do for God’s glory—even the everyday tasks.

How can we do everyday tasks for the Lord’s glory?

Thank God for another new day even before we get out of bed and think of five things to be thankful for before our feet hit the floor.

Commit each task, no matter how trivial, to the Lord.

Ask for strength to do what we do for His glory and the good of others.

If we’re tempted to let go of those responsibilities that obviously further God’s kingdom, we should prayerfully consider what other obligations and pursuits we can set aside. God’s wisdom is available to help us make the right decisions. (See James 1:5)

And let’s remember . . . it is not wrong to take care of ourselves—by spending quiet time with God each day, eating well, exercising regularly, or decompressing with some alone time or by grabbing a coffee with a friend. After all, we must replenish our resources in order to have something to give.

Six ways to help us do everyday tasks for the Lord's glory.This is my current perspective. Still, I am learning and growing—and trust I will be until the Lord calls me home.

Condemnation vs. Conviction

I want to encourage you with a realization I came to years ago. If we feel condemned, it is not God’s doing. Now, conviction, which is of God, can feel the same at first, but with conviction, He provides a way out.

[Questions or comments for Stephanie? Leave them below!]

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Stephanie is a freelance writer and editor. She writes under the pen name Steph Beth Nickel. She co-authored Paralympian Deborah L. Willows’ memoir, Living Beyond My Circumstances. Among other places, it is available from Castle Quay Books and Amazon. Steph has been blogging since 2010 and is a regular guest on Kimberley Payne’s site (fitness tips) and Christian Editing Services (writing tips). She will also be writing and recording regularly for the newly-formed Hope Stream Radio. Stephanie is an active member of The Word Guild and InScribe Christian Writers’ Fellowship


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